03 Oct The Dump Him List
by Crystalina Evert
The following is an excerpt from an excellent small booklet called Pure Womanhood by Crystalina Evert. I highly recommend it for all the amazing advice given. This is just one small part of a great read.
It’s easy to know when a friend should end a relationship. But it’s tough when you’re that girl. How do you know when to let go of your guy? Here’s a reliable “dump him” list:
- You’ve had to tell him more than once to stop.
- You feel the need to fix him.
- He looks at pornography.
- He hits you, pushes you, or does anything to frighten you.
- He gets drunk or takes drugs. –
- He doesn’t care if you lie to your family.
- He leads you away from God.
- He puts you down (even if he says he’s “just kidding”)
- He cheats on you.
- He’s controlling.
- He lies to you.
- He flirts with other girls.
- He uses guilt to get you to do what he wants.
- He always resents the time you spend with your friends and family.
- He keeps you from fulfilling your goals and dreams.
- He behaves badly and then blames it on other people or on things that happen to him.
- He can’t stand on his own two feet without you.
- You can’t stand on your own two feet and remain pure with him. These are not minor faults. They are signs of major issues that can be disastrous to a future marriage. If any ONE of these applies to him, end the relationship NOW.One way is to call him when you have a friend by your side for support. Another way is to write a long letter. A letter allows you to make sure he knows your reasons. If he forgets any, he can always refer back to the letter. He may try to manipulate you to stay, but you must be firm with him, and make up for all of them in one letter.In the meantime, stay strong. Do nothing physical with him. No kissing. No holding hands. No nothing. This man is not your husband, and your affections do not belong to him. Any affection you show him is leading him on. If the idea of breaking up terrifies you, at least step away from the relationship for a few weeks to “detox” from it and clear your mind. Cut off all contact with him, and cling to God, good friends, and family. Hopefully, after this break, you’ll have more confidence in your decision to leave. You are worth it!